An Open Letter to the My Ex-husband’s Girlfriend
I sincerely hope it works out better for you
I met you for the first time recently.
I understand you believe he is an amazing man. He really can be amazing, especially when he’s love bombing you. I know why he picked you. You are sweet, kind, and cater to him. He lives for that attention you gladly dole out. I know because that used to be my role.
I understand you think you know him. Not like I do after I spent over twenty years with him. You’ve known him a fraction of the time I have known him. You think I’m this crazy monster and that’s okay. It’s what you’ve been told to believe by him and his family. I’ve been through so many things you haven’t with him. These things would have made you turn into who I’ve become as well.
After we got married, someone who had known him for a few years said she couldn’t understand why he had gotten married to me so young. That was, until she met me. She said I was a breath of fresh air. That I lit up the room. That she now understood.
That was me a quarter of a century ago. No longer am I that breath of fresh air. I feel like I leave a dark, heavy fog in my wake now. My eyes have dulled, as well as my senses.
I don’t expect you to believe the things I could tell you, so I won’t even bother to tell you my truths. I admit I wasn’t completely innocent either, but he is a predator. He uses people and hurts people with the only thought of getting what he wants, what he craves, what he feels he’s entitled to get. He doesn’t care what that does to that person. He only cares that he gets what he seeks.
I am proud I got away from him. I am not proud of the things I felt I had to do to get away from him. I sincerely hope that you have a completely different relationship with him than I had because I wouldn’t wish what we had on anyone else.
